Based in quincy, Massachusetts, this 50+ is wondering what's next and how best to get there

Well and truly pissed off

Well and truly pissed off

I think this animal - I'm going to call it an elk because I don't know what it is, but I'm pretty sure elk have horns so it's probably close - has the look of 'what the ever loving fuck are these things and what do they want'. It doesn't look quite annoyed enough - but that look, with a little more anger, is pretty close to how I'm feeling. 

Are you aware that there is something called The Natural Hair Movement? I did not know that. Do you know why I didn't know that? Because I'm white, and I don't have to worry about shit like that. But women of African descent DO in fact know about this because - wait for it - American society has a problem with their hair. Their HAIR. I can't tell you how frustrated and angry this makes me. Can you even IMAGINE a white woman being told - look, your straight hair being left down or put up in that bun or whatever - is an 'issue'. It's not professional. It's not attractive. You need to do something about that. No - of course you can't. Do you know why you can't? Because it isn't 1640 and we aren't ruled by a Puritanical cultural norm that wants a woman's hair to be covered by a bonnet or whatever they wore back then. Because it's absolutely asinine to expect that a person is going to have to change the way their hair grows on their head because someone else thinks it looks better or worse. I've done a little bit of reading and this movement is basically about not using a 'relaxer' which is apparently some sort of toxic chemical designed to make it straight. Women of African descent need to organize around the right to not use a chemical on their hair to make it look more like white people hair and to not feel badly about that, to have support from other women in making that decision. It makes me feel speechless and angry and humiliated.

The source of this is from slavery. SLAVERY. It is 2017 and something that became a social norm - 'nappy' hair, non-straight white person hair is 'bad' - is still driving what is considered acceptable or attractive now. This is a clear example of how being black in America is saddled with so many remnants of slavery and discrimination. And I think I'm even MORE pissed off about this because I didn't know it. I am so oblivious in my experience of American society as a white person, that I did not even know this was a thing. That there needs to be a movement to help women feel like it's ok - JUST TO STYLE THEIR HAIR THE WAY IT NATURALLY GROWS AND THAT THEY DON'T HAVE TO TRY TO HAVE HAIR LIKE A WHITE PERSON. If I was a black person reading this, I'd just be shaking my head at how incredibly unaware white people are to their experience in our country. 

I'm going out to dinner shortly and I'm going to raise a glass and toast every woman who has or is contemplating saying 'fuck you people who want to tell me my natural hair is wrong' and who is wearing their hair the way they want. Cheers ladies. If you need anyone to have your back, give me a call. 

Maybe Don't Call It Retirement

Maybe Don't Call It Retirement

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